Some say it is magical to be in love, some say it is just time pass there is not such thing like love. Everyone has right to view their thoughts. Like wise I think Love is a beautiful thing to happen to anyone. Anyone who are in love would vouch for that. Love is not some thing which can be brought out of some book shelve and say that I am in love.
Love is a kind of feel and sensation, which would make people jump with joy and sometimes makes them behave like a small child who got a new gift.
I have asked few friends of mine "What do you think about Love?"
Before I answer their views let me tell about mine.
Ramesh : "Love is like addiction, once addicted you be feeling a high, but at the same time it is all about understanding the other person whom you love and giving trust and space. If trust is there then the love would grow even more stronger, otherwise there is no point to love someone if there is no trust between them."
Friends views
KD : "its waste of time , any sacrifices/compromises made is in vain ummmmmm its a big pit :nt easy to cum out."
"Love is all the same like rain.. It depends on which heart it is showered on to.. If the heart is fertile with love the fruits are good and if it is dry or barren out of love there would be no use of that shower. "
JO: "its
. "AM: "never love person from their physical appearance, just understand them. love is all abt understanding. "
RB: " i
SK: "well..its good..as long as it is from both sides, well love is love. it should be there for the right person and that right person should love you back. i know it can be great as well as great pain"
UD: "only the 4 letters in love are simple rest all is enigmatically beautiful but equally complicated "
PR : " It is a sweet pain"
SV: " Love doesn't have any reason..its unconditional..its the greatest feeling on earth "
LP: "It is blind, deaf, dumb "
VR: " When ur in so called LOVE everything seems to be beautiful! once u r out of it u can see everything around U faulty or something else "
TV: " Good to be in one if both the sides are true and honest "
SU : "Its a sweet feeling, u vl know it only when u experience it. No words can describe that feeling "
HR: "It is not a bad thing unless the guy has the guts 2 face any kind of challenge for the gal "
Many more views would come out in time.
These are personal views and I did not do any changes to them, so lets not debate on the views, if somebody did not like a certain person view.
Love can be categorized in many ways.
love for family
love for friends
love for boyfriend/girlfriend..... etc.
As we know love for family comes out automatically and none would come close to that love in the whole live except for love for boyfriend/ girlfriend. This is because some like to see them part of their family so they give that kind of love to them.
Friends love is a special one. They create a special kind of bond which would continue for many years to come. They become our pillar of support in times of need and many different roles according to the situations. Such friends are very few and it would be foolish to lose such friends.
Boyfriend/ Girlfriend Love: Now days it has become a fashion for both boys n gals to have opposite sex as their partner. But I just want to know really how true is the love for each other. I mean when we ask them are you really in love then we get a positive answer that they found the person who can understand them ..and so on....etc..etc....
But once in love, what I don't understand is why do people both boys and gals get so possessive and control freaks.
I mean I have seen people who say that they are broadminded, love to give freedom to their partner..etc etc.. But when they fall in love..their partners have to listen to them and behave in the fashion they want and if the partners do something which is normal, then they shout at them bcz they have not asked permission to do so.
Why do people fall in love?
1. Is it to submit oneself to the whims and fancies of the other person.
2. Is it to share ones joy and sorrow with the other person, who would be there with u no matter whatever happens.
3. Is it due to insecure nature that drives them to have a partner and behave irrationally and say that they are always right and the other person is wrong.
If u have any thoughts pls do comment.
I my view love should always be unconditional and mainly all about trust. The trust that let what may happen I am still going to be with that person ( unless the other person tries to cheat u). Trust is the most important thing if that is lost..it is impossible to stay in love.
Another thing which we can see these days are that many people say that they are in love and have physical relationship and then after a while they break up. When asked why did u break then they say that the spark is lost. I mean was it really love or just a need which had to be fulfilled and after getting done with it, move on to another person.
The best part about this whole deal is the persons are cool with it, I mean they know from the beginning that they are in for the physical part and have no issues after break up and continue to be friends. I am no one to comment on how to lead one's personal life. But by seeing these things the elders are getting a bad opinion on love.
Love is something which should be looked like a sacred bond between two souls and should be mature enough to handle the issues which come with it rather than handle them childishly. Love word should never be used if it is just for physical pleasures.
last but not the least
Love is a precious thing which comes with a gr8 feeling, let it be like that rather than making it a devil or like it is wrong to be associated with.
I would like to thank all my friends who have contributed to this post.
Thank you all for bearing with me. Love to torture you guys and gals more.
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4 comments:
:)..nice collection
buddy you are absolutely right.... love is unconditional to whoever you express...because it come from the heart... there is no religion, no caste, no country... you just need to say it.. don't hesitate or feel tensed on what they think when you tell how much you like them... whoever it is....
beautiful blog ramesh... way to go buddy...
Very interesting topic and since love has been in the air and I am still in the nasha, (myself RB) I can add a few of my recent thoughts..
There are 4 types of love in each love,
1. attraction - quite basic and often the beginning of love between two
2. compatibility - an aspect of compatibility is not so much about "love" as it is about getting along well even if there was no love, to like the mannerisms, and most oddities of each others personality and loving the entirety of it.. also the matching of mental capabilities and frequencies
3. emotional bonding - People can get used to another person and develop a strong bonding with another. For some it could be a strong bond where the two minds know the state of the other all the time or it could be the plain "getting used to" to the other person for some, for some it could be the feeling of being cared for or bothered about very much that makes on feel special. This is one aspect that *keeps* us in relationships.
4. social - This is probably an aspect of relationship that is explored when both partners declare to society, to their parents about their love. This often takes different types of courage, sometimes the courage may be to compromise on other family values if one has to go against family.. other times the courage may be for a shy person to simply come out and be open about his relationship..
Now trust would be a compatibility issue, essentially trust comes when you both have a similar and a strong sense of right and wrong. So that one partner is sure when he/she is not around the partner would not engage in a certain kind of activities that both consider wrong. So if that compatibility exists in your thoughts of a similar sense of right and wrong, I think trust should be there unless you are holding it back. If not, obviously you need to make sure of the above and trust would come about.
In many relationships, often the attraction takes precedence, giving a lot of "spark" initially, in some the compatibility takes over making the "spark" missing, in some relationships the emotional bonding takes over everything and when there is a fight and that bond temporarily broken people may realize how incompatible they are with the other person, if they are not, all said and done, with all things more or less in place, one of the partners may not have the courage to go against either parents or social customs..
If we all had put in a lot of thought a lot before getting into relationships and were both great at putting it into practice, that would be simply utopian.. but we are all imperfect and well thats how relationships do break or start making less sense sometimes.. I believe none of us ate to blame, we are not made perfect, the world is not made utopian and mistakes happen.. Physical aspects are another components of a relationship, wonder if it need be particularly bothered about.. I do not want to get into details of my self prescription on the limits to these things.. I leave it to the good thinking of each individual..
I miss one point and at the risk of belaboring the obvious, I will say all relationships are relationships at all if based on honesty and frankness. These foundations are non-negotiable to say the least.
Intresting..
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